JessicaR":87lfocow said:
Venting and looking for advise!
Here is the situation. My 10 year old daughter has learning disabilities, I still don't exactly know what all her problems are because quite frankly the school system sucks! Here is what I do know; Based on in school testing. She scored low on long term memory, and very low on short term memory, she can read quite well but, she doesn't remember what she reads, so comprehension is low. It takes several times of her rereading things to understand enough to answer questions on tests. Now comes the not so clear results. She may be dyslexic, not enough for concern (according to the teacher) but enough that she still on occasion will write numbers, and letters backwards, once she wrote her full name all letters backwards, like if you was to write something on a window and then look at the word from the other side of the window, everything was backwards. She also will occasionally flip numbers, for example she will write 51 instead of 15. They also said she might be slightly autistic but again nothing they are worried about.
She does go to special classes to help with her reading, and they are supposed to be helping her during tests, but they are not! Other than that they are not helping her much, every time I talk to the teachers they assure me that she is getting the help she needs, and that she is doing well and making good progress. However her report card is saying something different. As expected she is having trouble in with reading, but she is passing. Math right now is the biggest problem. She has to do timed math facts 100 problems in 2 minutes (I think) She just cant do it! We have tried flash cards but she just cant remember them, and she gets very frustrated and upset. It breaks my heart to watch her struggle and cry because she cant get it. On top of that the teacher decided that for everyday she doesn't pass the timed tests she has to take home 2 pages of math facts, so 200 math problems, and do them at home. Also she makes her stay in for recess to do math facts. I don't know what to do to help her it makes me angry and frustrated because I don't know what to do!! I have even just said screw it before and let her use a calculator to finish her homework because it was getting so late. I understand teachers cant make special allowances for students but I don't think its fair to expect her to pass a test like that given her learning disabilities. She is always going to need more time, as it is when she tries to get the test done fast she ends up making mistakes with flipping the numbers, or she will read them wrong.
I think what also makes it worse is they shut down 2 elementary schools in our city so now the class rooms are pretty crowded and the teachers have too many students so she is falling through the cracks.
Wow! Fight for you child. I'm dyslexic. Mostly in math, but also verbal and in writing I misplace and repeat words.
My IQ was so high in elementary school, they were pressuring me all of the time to do better in the accelerated classes. Even at one point, planning on sending me to college for a half day by the 3rd grade. My parents said No.
And then finally, I hit algebra in Jr. High and they put me in the slow group. Which was a relief but I still had problems. I flip numbers and can barely do fractions although I am a lot better today.
I found that when I got into college that a lot of my dyslexia went away with Acetate Sheets that you hold over the pages.
They come in colors. Mine is yellow.
My husband is also dyslexic and his is blue.
There is also a green, violet and reddish looking one.
Those colors keep the pages from jumping around when we are reading. And some print is easier to read than others, but when you get me under florescent lights,
everything jumps around!
I've known other dyslexics that have severe problems with fluorescent lights. They are not allowed in my home. And sometimes, I'm in places that have so many that I have to leave.
And I've also come to find out that I have Aspergers.
Noises really bother me at times to the point I want to shoot the ceiling fan or the radio, or the refrigerator. I had a refrigerator once that has a noisy fan and it about did me in.
Noise keeps me from concentrating. I am sensitive to the noises of electrical appliances. Those boxes on the phones at the end of the plugs hum!!! Had one years ago that hummed so loudly that it made me crazy tense and ex hubby couldn't hear it.
We even had to have a safety light removed because of the hum. My ex made fun of me for it and told me I was nuts. Thank God the guy at the power company was familiar with the problem. Ex hubby started running his mouth about me imagining things and blah, blah, blah. The power company guy took a glove and put it on a stick so the the sound would reflect back at them and he said, "This is what your wife is being tormented by and it's not a joke! This humming can be so severe it causes health problems. We even have health issues because of it and have to go to have checkups done on a regular basis."
I think that was the only time that man truly apologized to me before he died.
Your daughter's problems may not all be "a lack of memory" issues. She may have difficulties
tuning out what is bombarding her. If you are surrounded by something that you are sensitive to, that's what it feels like....bombardment.
Also, and I don't know why, when I started taking fish oil and vitamin B, it helped my nerves/stress over noise and it helped me a lot with focus.
And when I started using Coconut Oil, a lot of my memory problems went away.
Which also, you might have your daughter tested for diabetes because that can cause memory issues.
Coconut oil passes the blood/brain barrier and provides something that insulin normally does, but sometimes insulin can't pass the blood brain barrier.