AmysMacdog
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OMG! Thats so scary!..........WOW! 2 minutes! :shock: :shock: :shock:
Kyle@theHeathertoft":29205rlc said:If in fact she is not even 13 yet, I would strongly recommend her mother be contacted. If she's 13 or older, I'm not sure what the law/protocol is. People must in general be ≥ 13 to participate in on-line forums. (At least, that's the policy on the ones I'm part of, and definitely policy on the gardening forum I help moderate.)
She is in fact under 13.
Kyle@theHeathertoft":29205rlc said:Imagine: someone, let's call him/her a "creep," has the full name of a minor female "somewhere" in Kansas. The "somewhere" can be ascertained fairly closely by a narrow reading of her posts both here and elsewhere on animal forums. This much, anyone might do out of normal curiosity. But the "creep" decides to go further, reaching out on social media known to be popular with young people (i.e., teens rather than 20-somethings) and contacts Grace by means of one of these media. "Creep" sets up a meeting somewhere close to Grace's home, perhaps in conjunction with a rabbit or goat show.
This is a legitimate and SCARY concern.
Kyle@theHeathertoft":29205rlc said:I spent some time on the "drama" threads, trying to talk her down from the edge (and now I wonder if she was actually on the edge) just a couple of weeks after I joined RT in August. That's time from my life I can never get back. If it helped her, I don't begrudge one second of it. But if the whole situation was faked, then I am very grudging of my time.
We may never know.
I agree, Dogcatmom, but I also think of it this way: if she legitimately needed help, and we helped her, then so much the better. If she wasn't and just wanted attention or something and didn't need or WANT help, and we tried to help her anyways, so much the better. I'd rather be blown off and talked trash about by a lying, backstabbing child any day...because it means we won't dismiss or ignore a person in need of help when they really NEED IT.
But yes, I'm sure much of our time was "wasted" on her.
Kyle@theHeathertoft":29205rlc said:There are laws governing information sharing from person's under certain ages. My daughter has lost her Internet access at home, almost entirely, for violating them.
My son is strictly monitored for online stuff...and he knows the rules: no giving out real names at ALL, don't get any more specific than "Canada" when asked where he lives (hey, let's be honest, Canada is HUGE, so that doesn't narrow anything down!!! :lol, never answer if someone asks how old you are, AND if ANYONE asks for ANY of that he must tell an adult IMMEDIATELY.
Grace is only a few years older than my son. :x Gives me pause when I think about some of the info she's "shared." :shock:
I do agree that her mother should be informed. (Sorry, Sassy -- I mean Kyle!)
LOL!!! Tempted to put "Watch out, I'm sassy!" in my signature. :mrgreen:
I'll ask my ultra-rational friend once I get to their house...if G. agrees, I'll send a message to her mother. Hopefully it will help Grace get the help she needs and will prevent a tragedy-in-the-making, such as the "creep" scenario.
DogCatMom":35hon183 said:Thank you for removing this source of drama. I cannot say I'm "happy" that she's been banned; that's not the feeling I have.
I am surprised to find that this former member wasn't 15 or so; her drama was very consistent with 15 years old (says the former 7th- to 12th-grade teacher). But I was extremely concerned a few days ago when she signed off--in her signature block, not on a single post--with her full name, given and surname. It was an invitation to Internet trouble of the worst kind.
Imagine: someone, let's call him/her a "creep," has the full name of a minor female "somewhere" in Kansas. The "somewhere" can be ascertained fairly closely by a narrow reading of her posts both here and elsewhere on animal forums. This much, anyone might do out of normal curiosity. But the "creep" decides to go further, reaching out on social media known to be popular with young people (i.e., teens rather than 20-somethings) and contacts Grace by means of one of these media. "Creep" sets up a meeting somewhere close to Grace's home, perhaps in conjunction with a rabbit or goat show.
I think we can all take it from there, and it's not pretty.
If in fact she is not even 13 yet, I would strongly recommend her mother be contacted. If she's 13 or older, I'm not sure what the law/protocol is. People must in general be ≥ 13 to participate in on-line forums. (At least, that's the policy on the ones I'm part of, and definitely policy on the gardening forum I help moderate.)
I spent some time on the "drama" threads, trying to talk her down from the edge (and now I wonder if she was actually on the edge) just a couple of weeks after I joined RT in August. That's time from my life I can never get back. If it helped her, I don't begrudge one second of it. But if the whole situation was faked, then I am very grudging of my time.
We may never know.
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