An awkward situation...in my shoes, what would you do?

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Yea I remember seeing her. I noticed how quiet she got as soon as we walked up to you, if i would have known I would have started talking about how tasty my black buck was after he violently attacked my face! J/k of course, well the talking part not the evil jedi/ninja devil.

The only reason I'd take that doe to the vet is if your uncomfortable with the injection part, but since your not there's really no reason. I think your right on that just don't answer.

I know your shy but be honest with her and she should just back off. If all else fails then sit by me and I'll obnoxiously talk about eating my buns, and how my hubby butchers them for me. ;)
 
That's when I just nod my head at all their advice and then go do what I want. I might take the time to tell people the dogs have to eat something it might as well be fresh meat raised in a happy environment but only if I think it will actually make a difference in their point of view.
 
I'm going with the crowd on this, definitely! She's way too much work. A friend who threatens your livestock and ability to raise your own food is no friend.

And she is threatening your livestock and your ability to raise your own food. Bringing up rescue and all aspects of the way you keep rabbits and what you do with them... I'd handle her like she's one step away from calling them to come "rescue" all of your rabbits.
 
I'm afraid I see her as a threat as well- she could cause all sorts of problems for you- since she does know where you live, your name etc. I would carefully back off of her, not tell her anything about your rabbits and what your doing, if she asks about the buck you found him a home- end of story. Then avoid her like the plague, even if she shows up at a show you can find a way to avoid her- and hopefully she'll get the hint eventually. Same with any contact she makes- short answers, 'Thank You' Thanks she's better' and then stop answering her over time. Its a shame, but I don't doubt that she would turn you in and lie about conditions 'for the bunnies sake'. She thinks she's saving animals, she's treating you with kid gloves right now, and trying to talk you into seeing things her way, when its painfully clear you don't she may get nasty. Watch your back.
 
My response to anything rabbit related would be "I don't know" or "we'll see" no details EVER! I would just say thx in this txt or tell her you have a vet. Nothing more. No details. Then, I would be too busy to talk...ever. always be doing something or just about to go somewhere. You don't want to offend and cause her to cause you trouble and you don't want to let her know anything going on in your life that she can use to cause you trouble.
 
As King Arthur and his men said after encountering the Killer Rabbit of Caerbannog, "Run Away! Run Away!".

If that doesn't make sense to you, then watch the movie "Monty Python and the Holy Grail". :popcorn:

Seriously, be careful and best of luck to you!
 
Suburbanhomesteader? Somewhere in my laundry basket I own this on a t-shirt:

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Whenever I wear it, I can tell INSTANTLY who "gets" it and who hasn't seen the movie. :lol:

Asinaway...LOL next time can I set up next to you? :) Your hubby and I can discuss the best dispatch methods and make her flee in terror.

Seriously though...I do wonder if she'd actually report me. :p

You know what the REAL irony is??? She used to badly neglect her dog. She had a Pekingese...dang dog never had any manners taught to him. Royal jerk. Anyways...she fed him all sorts of greasy, nasty "people food" and then was shocked when he nearly died of pancreatitis. She had a habit of grabbing him and flipping him onto his back hard and fast, and one day she caused him a back injury that left him with limited control of the back end for the rest of his life. She insisted that a Pekingese should never be trimmed or bathed, but then she'd never BRUSH HIM so he lived life with dog-zits all over from blocked pores, hot spots and of course, matting. I convinced her to let me groom him once...when I got him on my table, I quickly discovered that one of his forelegs had MATTED TO THE SIDE OF HIS BODY and he'd been limping around on three legs for gods only knows how long. I took pictures so she's believe me ex post facto and proceeded to free his tangled appendage. I remember his ears had to be shaved with a surgical blade, the matting was so bad...they were purple with bruises. He had hematomas all over from matting, as well as hotspots and sores. His nails were like...three inches long, which on a dog that small is impressive.

He finally died.

Now she's all ultra-obsessive about my animal husbandry??? What the heck.
 
Wow. :shock: Just wow.

But would she report you? Yes, I do think she would. Her behavior is that irrational, and has been for some time (remembers the moving incident).
 
If this is the woman that freaked about you butchering ... well, you have plenty of good advice about how to ease her out of your life, and good warnings about her stabbing you in the back if you tick her off. I just wanted to say that you do NOT deserve to have such insanity in your life :grouphug2:
 
Ann Claire is right, you deserve better. I know when I was younger it was hard to cut people out of my life- hard even to reconize and realize just how messed up someone was, and I put up with so much more than I would now. Its a sharp learning curve, and sometimes we pay dearly for keeping some people in our lives- so run now! Your description of her poor dog made me just sick- I have helped some of my friends with such situations. I've help shear coats off of dogs where the entire back piece came off like a huge shield- and the skin on this one poor collie was terrible. I spent months getting him back together, never quite succeeded because his owner didn't follow thru. Hard part is always teaching the owners what they did wrong- that their neglect caused this. Most refuse to see it.

Do I think she would rat you out? Yup, you bet.
 
I think we have here the perfect example of someone who cannot respect another person's right to live their own life by their own terms. She wants you to live your life by her terms. And as it seems she's edging towards fanatacism, you really do not want to be her first 'victory'.
I second everyone else's warnings to be very careful with her, as she does know so much about you. Do you think she could be vindictive if she feels slighted? (Bah, how I hate complicated people!!!) :angry:
I wish you the best of luck in phasing her out of your life.
 
Yeah it's the same crazy who was weird when I moved. Come to think of it she DID totally just show up to "help" that day without being asked and without telling me she was coming...now I wonder if she just wanted an excuse to get a good view of where and how I keep my rabbits. :x Kind of a scary thought. :p

I always hate seeing a matted dog on my table...but I do get a sense of accomplishment once they're shaved down. It's like a magical transformation sometimes...a quivering, miserable dog that won't even look at you when they are matted because they are in so much discomfort...and once they get naked, they're just SO HAPPY, wagging and wiggling and overjoyed.

I just don't get how people can let them get like that. I mean, how can you live with an animal and not see what is happening?! My goofball Persian cat is a playful thing, once in a while I come home to find she's splashed through her water bowl and as a result has proto-matting. It takes like two seconds to brush her. Because I do it often, she's really good for it. :p Once when I was gone for a month, my cat-sitter didn't brush her once...I came home to mildly matted trousers and some tangling in her mane. Ten minutes and she was right as rain. I see these poor creatures matted to the bone, where it's like shearing a sheep and the coat comes off in one piece and I wonder, how the heck long has THIS been going on??? :(

But anyways.

Yes, Carebear, she IS vindictive. She's proud of that, claims it's because she's a Virgo. :roll: I've known her for over a decade, she doesn't like to let things go.

When we were first friends, I don't know how but she had no idea I'm a deerhunter. I hunt. I process and eat what I kill, I butcher myself because the local processors 1.) cost money and 2.) they throw away "trash meat" that I can and do use. One day back in high school (oh my god now I feel old) my dad bought me a combo license as a gift, I think it was a reward for a good test grade or something, I don't remember exactly why. But I was jazzed!!! That meant an essentially FREE hunt!!! I don't recall how it came up (maybe "hey wanna catch a movie this weekend" "Sorry can't, will be hunting") but she FREAKED. Called me some horrible names, and stormed off.

Two weeks later she called me and said that if I could just never talk to her about hunting she'd "overlook" it. Since I have a crazy cousin like that (she's far crazier than this gal, if you can believe it) it didn't seem an unreasonable request. :p

I've never understood people and their hangups about cruelty-free meat, be it raised or hunted. :p And this gal eats meat so she's a bloody freaking hypocrite IMO. ;) My crazy cousin is a vegetarian at least, lol. ;)

My ex girlfriend was a vegetarian, but she had no problem with meat consumption. She helped me cut up a deer haunch once. She simply declared when asked about it, that in her oppinion, if you can't kill it yourself you shouldn't eat it...and since she didn't feel comfortable harvesting an animal, she decided not to eat meat.

I like her take on the whole "eating rabbits" thing. :) She was fine with it! It was just in almost EVERY OTHER WAY IMAGINABLE that she was crazy...borderline stalking me for a while there. Creepy.

Gods I have some creepy, scary people in my life. :cry:
 
Anyone you walk on egg shells around...really isn't your friend.....she'll never see it your way, nor you hers...no reason to continue....slow transistion is best I agree.....
 

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