TeaTimeBunnies
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I'm not sure if this should actually be in hopping mad or not, but it doesn't have to do with my rabbits so I figured it would be an off topic subject.
Anyway, my fiance and I are still in our early 20s and sorta recently left our "nests" and moved off to college. We live in a house that my mom owns and that is why I can have my pets. Well our dog is only 7 months old and we are still training her. Well rewind to her being about 3 months old. We went and visited his parents and they forcefully convinced him to get me to let them "help train" our dog for about a week.....well they kept coming up with excuses and the week turned into a month. We finally get our dog back, but since his dad stays home all day, she now has separation anxiety. Well my family has delt with this before and uses crate training to ease the dogs stress by giving her her own space that she feels safe in while we are away. Well his family hates crates and sees it as cruel. Not to mention that they hate we have a cable for her until we get the fence up, and they hate the fence because they live in a rural area and don't use them. Well my fiance listened to what I was telling him and I showed him the science behind why we do the crate training. He agreed that it would be better for everyone. Well fast forward a week and a half after us finally getting our dog back, and they show up on our door, calling me an animal abuser, telling him he needs to stand up to me, and that they are taking our dog. I refused to let them take her because we aren't doing anything wrong, and they scared my fiance into silence and tears. They finally gave up and left without your dog, but I was in ruins and very upset with my fiance for not helping me stand up to them as they verbally tore me apart, but then things calmed down. Moving forward a month or so and I go to watch my mom's house while she visits my sister, and I am busy all that week taking care of her animals and house that I completely forgot to tell them I was in town. My fiance informed me (they have my number) that they decided that I was being spiteful and didn't want to let them see the dog, and that I need to not be so easily upset. I finally got a moment, and visited them on my last day in town, and they acted as if nothing was wrong (What?). Now we were in town for the weekend to do a few things. We stayed with my mom because we were doing things at her house. Well Sunday my fiance went to do a few things at his parent's house. He decided to let me sleep in since we'd be going by there later that day anyway. He also didn't think to bring the dog with him. Well when he got there the first thing they asked was were the dog was, and immediately jumped to the conclusion that I wouldn't let him take her to see them (I was asleep mind you), and we're going on about how they don't like how spiteful I'm being, and how I'm treating them poorly. They then started ranting to him how this is how it's going to be when we have kids, and we'd take them to see my mom all the time, but never let them see their grand kids, and so on. I haven't changed my behavior towards them since before we moved away. They are the ones who have changed. I just don't know what to do anymore. They keep insulting me, and downgrading me to my fiance, and telling him how I'm being horrible, but since their attempt to take our dog, they won't say a thing to me. He knows I haven't changed and I very concerned about their behavior towards me, but they won't actually listen to anything either of us have to say when we try to bring up what is going on. Sigh
Anyway, my fiance and I are still in our early 20s and sorta recently left our "nests" and moved off to college. We live in a house that my mom owns and that is why I can have my pets. Well our dog is only 7 months old and we are still training her. Well rewind to her being about 3 months old. We went and visited his parents and they forcefully convinced him to get me to let them "help train" our dog for about a week.....well they kept coming up with excuses and the week turned into a month. We finally get our dog back, but since his dad stays home all day, she now has separation anxiety. Well my family has delt with this before and uses crate training to ease the dogs stress by giving her her own space that she feels safe in while we are away. Well his family hates crates and sees it as cruel. Not to mention that they hate we have a cable for her until we get the fence up, and they hate the fence because they live in a rural area and don't use them. Well my fiance listened to what I was telling him and I showed him the science behind why we do the crate training. He agreed that it would be better for everyone. Well fast forward a week and a half after us finally getting our dog back, and they show up on our door, calling me an animal abuser, telling him he needs to stand up to me, and that they are taking our dog. I refused to let them take her because we aren't doing anything wrong, and they scared my fiance into silence and tears. They finally gave up and left without your dog, but I was in ruins and very upset with my fiance for not helping me stand up to them as they verbally tore me apart, but then things calmed down. Moving forward a month or so and I go to watch my mom's house while she visits my sister, and I am busy all that week taking care of her animals and house that I completely forgot to tell them I was in town. My fiance informed me (they have my number) that they decided that I was being spiteful and didn't want to let them see the dog, and that I need to not be so easily upset. I finally got a moment, and visited them on my last day in town, and they acted as if nothing was wrong (What?). Now we were in town for the weekend to do a few things. We stayed with my mom because we were doing things at her house. Well Sunday my fiance went to do a few things at his parent's house. He decided to let me sleep in since we'd be going by there later that day anyway. He also didn't think to bring the dog with him. Well when he got there the first thing they asked was were the dog was, and immediately jumped to the conclusion that I wouldn't let him take her to see them (I was asleep mind you), and we're going on about how they don't like how spiteful I'm being, and how I'm treating them poorly. They then started ranting to him how this is how it's going to be when we have kids, and we'd take them to see my mom all the time, but never let them see their grand kids, and so on. I haven't changed my behavior towards them since before we moved away. They are the ones who have changed. I just don't know what to do anymore. They keep insulting me, and downgrading me to my fiance, and telling him how I'm being horrible, but since their attempt to take our dog, they won't say a thing to me. He knows I haven't changed and I very concerned about their behavior towards me, but they won't actually listen to anything either of us have to say when we try to bring up what is going on. Sigh