grumpy
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In life we are blessed with very few 'true-friends'. I've had several but never
more than can be counted on the fingers of one hand. These types of friends
are without question "gifts" from above. I've felt blessed knowing each and
every one of them. Over the years, I've had to say good-bye to three men I'd
lay my life down for. As, I'm sure, they would do the same for me. That's the
closeness of the bonds that developed between these men and myself.
I was shaken deeply last evening when I saw one of those dear friends at
the small restaurant in town. He looked a little 'under-the-weather' but he's
been through Hell the past 8 or 9 years. Diagnosed with lung cancer, he was
placed in a study group of 25 people who had the same form of cancer as he.
I learned last fall that the number in the group is still 25, but Keith is the lone
survivor of the original 25. The rest have passed away. Keith remained active
throughout his battle with this dreaded disease. Losing his entire right lung
in the process, plus various complications with his heart since it was left with
so much empty space around it. It twisted causing him to nearly die two years
ago before the doctors finally figured out how to turn it, stitch it to an inside
rib muscle, and stabilize it. It left him in tremendous pain that had to be
controlled with heavy narcotic drugs.
We've had long talks about our individual mortality and our preferences on
how each would choose to leave this world that we live in. He started having
more issues because his heart is slowly losing strength and is unable to
pump enough blood to his brain when he stands upright for longer than ten
minutes. The doctors told him there's nothing more they can do to help him
and that eventually one day soon, he'll lose consciousness and not
re-awake. He'll pass quietly, painlessly. Of course, he could extend his life if
he drastically curtailed his routine, but that's not the way he works.
He's a teacher, (semi-retired) but still loves teaching the kids in his computer
graphics class a couple of hours each day. He's a dynamite photographer and
has had his pictures published worldwide in some of the major magazines.
Plus, he's developed all of my novel covers with a sense of perfection that is
unparalleled. He made his decision to keep his life as it is until the end.
"Grumpy, I'm not gonna quit just to live a few extra months. I won't reduce
the quality of my life for the quantity of my life."
It was a hard thing to hear, but I had to agree. "I don't blame you, my friend
I'd do the same thing if I were in your shoes." I teared up and told him, "If
there's anything you need, just call and I'll be there. I give you my word."
It won't be long, but I pray that the end won't come too soon. It takes many
years to develop a friendship such as this and I'm walkin' on the short side
myself. I've got two left. One fella my age and the other is a young man I've
watched grow up, "Max". He's a surgeon now and an ensign in the Naval
Medical Corp. I've asked him to speak for me when the time arrives. He was
somewhat unnerved but told me he'd "be honored" to do so.
Grumpy.
more than can be counted on the fingers of one hand. These types of friends
are without question "gifts" from above. I've felt blessed knowing each and
every one of them. Over the years, I've had to say good-bye to three men I'd
lay my life down for. As, I'm sure, they would do the same for me. That's the
closeness of the bonds that developed between these men and myself.
I was shaken deeply last evening when I saw one of those dear friends at
the small restaurant in town. He looked a little 'under-the-weather' but he's
been through Hell the past 8 or 9 years. Diagnosed with lung cancer, he was
placed in a study group of 25 people who had the same form of cancer as he.
I learned last fall that the number in the group is still 25, but Keith is the lone
survivor of the original 25. The rest have passed away. Keith remained active
throughout his battle with this dreaded disease. Losing his entire right lung
in the process, plus various complications with his heart since it was left with
so much empty space around it. It twisted causing him to nearly die two years
ago before the doctors finally figured out how to turn it, stitch it to an inside
rib muscle, and stabilize it. It left him in tremendous pain that had to be
controlled with heavy narcotic drugs.
We've had long talks about our individual mortality and our preferences on
how each would choose to leave this world that we live in. He started having
more issues because his heart is slowly losing strength and is unable to
pump enough blood to his brain when he stands upright for longer than ten
minutes. The doctors told him there's nothing more they can do to help him
and that eventually one day soon, he'll lose consciousness and not
re-awake. He'll pass quietly, painlessly. Of course, he could extend his life if
he drastically curtailed his routine, but that's not the way he works.
He's a teacher, (semi-retired) but still loves teaching the kids in his computer
graphics class a couple of hours each day. He's a dynamite photographer and
has had his pictures published worldwide in some of the major magazines.
Plus, he's developed all of my novel covers with a sense of perfection that is
unparalleled. He made his decision to keep his life as it is until the end.
"Grumpy, I'm not gonna quit just to live a few extra months. I won't reduce
the quality of my life for the quantity of my life."
It was a hard thing to hear, but I had to agree. "I don't blame you, my friend
I'd do the same thing if I were in your shoes." I teared up and told him, "If
there's anything you need, just call and I'll be there. I give you my word."
It won't be long, but I pray that the end won't come too soon. It takes many
years to develop a friendship such as this and I'm walkin' on the short side
myself. I've got two left. One fella my age and the other is a young man I've
watched grow up, "Max". He's a surgeon now and an ensign in the Naval
Medical Corp. I've asked him to speak for me when the time arrives. He was
somewhat unnerved but told me he'd "be honored" to do so.
Grumpy.