No reliable cure- some "get over it" some don't [no mater what you do]
I would suggest - a couple of things - [maybe none of it applies]
When you reach to pick her up, have your hand come from above her, not from in front of her face,
When you grasp her, don't be hesitant, or hold her too loosely.
Don't let her see her behavior is working IE: you back off when she is aggressive- if she is aggressive- you need to grab her firmly [not hurt her] with your hand coming from above,push her to the floor with your hand between the shoulder blades, grab her by the scruff, if you need to hold ears also with the same hand to control her that is OK- after you have a hold of her, rock her backwards, put your other hand under her butt [you are supporting her weight with your hand under her butt] - pick her up and hold her firmly and close to your body..
