Nika":1yl4cg84 said:
I am very sorry, but.. why? why couldnt you foster it in a outside (with inside cuddling) home?
at the time the area where i was living was home to a very large colony of FeLV+ feral cats and i did not feel comfortable putting him out. I had tried to find him a new home but he was a bit like a small dog in that he was very attached to me specifically and was aggressive to everyone else, so nobody wanted him. He wasn't a hunter, so I couldn't market him as a barn cat. I would have loved to kept him as an outdoor cat, but I couldn't willingly send him to a horrible death due to leukemia
I felt for everyone's sanity it was better to just humanely euthanize him. it was not a decision made lightly, and i was really upset about it for a long time, but i had tried for 5 years to help him, and nothing worked, and i was exhausted from constantly smelling every inch of furniture and carpet to find what he had peed on while i wasn't looking multiple times a day. and when we bought a new house, we really did not want him to destroy what we worked so hard for. he already ruined the carpet in one room (and two couches,) - it doesn't smell anymore after multiple shampooings but there's a big stain and it needs to be replaced.
Zass has a good point - I have read many things that suggest that grains in pet food is an aggregate for UTIs. i've heard lots of stories first-hand from people who had UTI problems then switched to a grain-free food and the problems stopped. what's strange to me is that the UTI meds from like science diet (which i don't trust anyway, too many recalls,) are FULL of grain. my vet gave me some to try with my problem cat but he wouldn't even eat it. but i was skeptical anyway, even outside of my dislike of the brand. i can't see how a food with corn as a main ingredient was supposed to be any better than the high quality grain-free he had been on.
he could also be mad because of where his box is, he needs it totally spotless or it's not clean enough, a variety of things. make sure the box is in a quiet place, but not necessarily hidden. some cats also don't like covered boxes, if you're using one maybe try taking the lid off. try to scoop it as much as possible for a while and see if it helps. sometimes they're just really picky haha.